This morning as I was warming up for my “long run” (I’m training for my very first ½ marathon), I immediately began to tell myself I’d never be able to run the entire distance today without stopping.
Because my calves were sore.
Because I never ran this distance before.
Because I was tired.
Because I don’t actually like to run.
Because, because, because!
Then I caught myself!
And immediately slapped myself out of it, by coming up with reasons why I could have a good easy run.
I reminded myself that I’m in great shape, that I’ve done things in the past I never thought I could, and that running is just fast walking. 🙂
By the way, I mentally slap myself all the time! It always works.
Which brings us to the topic of today’s article.
Last week I was interviewed by a fellow coaching colleague, and a question she asked me prompted me to do a Facebook Live session on the topic this past weekend.
Unfortunately, Facebook’s system accidentally deleted the video (can you believe that? Technology! Oh well…), so I decided to sum it up for you here in this blog post, in case you missed me live. (I go live every Saturday at 10:30 am EST)
I don’t remember the exact question, but it was something to the effect of, what one piece of advice would I give someone who wants to make a big change in their life, but feels paralyzed by indecision or fear.
My answer was this: Stop coming up with reasons why you can’t!
As a health & fitness coach for more than a decade, I have heard hundreds of reasons, from hundreds of people, why someone couldn’t do something.
It’s too hard
I’m too out of shape
I’m too old
I don’t have enough time
I’m don’t like doing that
Blah, blah, blah.
But you know what I didn’t hear a lot of?
I didn’t hear a lot of reasons why they COULD do it.
I didn’t hear a lot of reasons why they were worth it…why they could make the time, why they could put themselves first, why they could find the money, why they could find a way.
Did you know that, according to Inc.com a staggering 92% of Americans who set goals fail!? 92%!!
But guess what the 8% who succeed do.
They find a way!
There’s always a way.
Whenever I’m faced with a new challenge or fear (I do most things afraid), I remind myself that “If they can do it, I can do it!”
And I don’t mean that in a conceited or competitive way. I mean that in a practical way.
If someone else has already accomplished what I want to accomplish, or already has what I want to attain, then that right there tells me that it’s possible. Because it’s already been done!
And if it’s already been done, all I need to do is figure out how I can do it too.
I don’t come up with reasons why I CAN’T.
I come up with reasons why I can!
That’s exactly what you need to do.
If there’s something in your life you want to do, have, or accomplish, then the very first thing you have to do is stop coming up with reasons why you can’t!
And when you do find yourself coming up with reasons why you can’t, you’ve got to slap yourself out of it!
Here’s my simple 3-step process for how to do that.
3 Simple Steps to Slap Yourself out of it!
Old habits are easy to fall into because you’ve had a lot of practice. The trick to eventually breaking that habit is to begin to catch yourself in the act as soon as possible. Once you recognize what you’re doing, you can begin to change what you’re doing.
Once you catch yourself, stop yourself so it doesn’t gain more momentum. We both know that once you get on a “negativity roll”, things can quickly go downhill. That’s why you’ve got to stop it as soon as you catch it! No, it’s not easier said than done. It may require a little practice, but it really is easy. Just stop it.
Once you’ve caught yourself coming up with reasons why you can’t, and you’ve stopped yourself, now’s the perfect opportunity to flip it to “reasons why you can,” just like I did today before my run.
It’s really easy to come up with reasons why you can do something. You just have to get in the habit of doing it.
If you struggle in the beginning, always start with “If they can do it, I can do it.”
Because it’s true!
Look at this quick examples:
I can’t keep off the weight because I like food too much.
I can keep off the weight when I combine exercises I love with foods that I love.
I can lose weight because I’ve done it before.
I can lose weight when I make myself a priority.
You can do this with any subject – money, love, career, confidence, goals, etc.
Once you begin to train your mind to come up with reasons why you can, you’ll never live in doubt again.
Thank you for reading this. Now I’d like to hear from you. What aha or lesson from this article is most relevant to you now — and why?
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P.S. My “Saturday Session” Facebook Lives are a great way to get free coaching and motivation from me for mastering your mindset so you can achieve any goal you have, or make any change you want to improve your life. While it’s not a replacement for investing in a success or mindset coach, it’s a great way to still get access to me while you’re creating the funds to hire a coach. You can join me every Sunday, at 10:30 am EST / 7:30 am PT on my Facebook page, or catch the replay later in the day.