Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday 🧡
Not just because of the food or the togetherness…
but because it was my mom’s favorite holiday too.
Growing up, Thanksgiving meant two things in our house:
joy and chaos.
My mom would cook for two days straight — blasting salsa music, dancing around the kitchen 💃🏽, laughing, tasting everything, shooing us away, pulling us back in… she loved every second of it.
And honestly, so did I.
I inherited that from her — the music, the movement, the joy…
and the pressure.
Because even though I love cooking and hosting, somewhere along the way it turned into a full-blown high achiever performance.
The “I’ll do it all” attitude.
The “no one can do it as well as I can” belief.
The “this is just what I do” identity.
And every year, even though the day itself was beautiful, I ended up exhausted by the time people arrived — rushing, sweating, managing, spinning, performing… and not fully present.
This year, something shifted.
Something in me softened.
Maybe it’s knowing my son is coming home with his girlfriend — and we’re meeting her for the first time — and I don’t want to miss a second of it because I’m stuck in the kitchen or running the whole day like a production. I want to be fully present, not rushed or distracted.
And with 12 people coming, including my husband’s whole family, pretending I can run the entire day myself makes no sense anymore.
So for the first time ever…
I’m having Thanksgiving catered.
The entire thing.
ALL of it.
Not because I can’t cook.
Not because I don’t love it.
Not because I’ve “given up.”
But because I’m evolving.
I’m choosing presence over pressure.
Ease instead of being the hero of the whole holiday.
Support instead of self-sacrifice.
This is what I mean when I talk about the difference between high achievers and high performers.
High achievers do it all — even if it burns them out.
High performers choose what matters most — and ask for support.
I’ll still blast my salsa music.
I’ll still dance around the kitchen 💃🏽.
I’ll still lay everything out beautifully.
I just won’t be doing it from a place of perfection, proving, or trying to control every detail.
I’ll be doing it from a place of joy.
And here’s where gratitude comes in…
I’m deeply grateful for the woman I’m becoming —
the one who lets things be easier,
who doesn’t need to prove her capability with labor,
who doesn’t measure her worth by how much she handles.
I’m grateful for the emotional maturity it took to make this choice.
I’m grateful for the energy I’ll have to be fully present with the people I love.
I’m grateful for the memories I’ll actually remember — not the overwhelm I’ll barely survive.
And if you’re feeling this shift too…
If you’re choosing ease in some area of your life…
If you’re letting the holidays be a little less heavy…
I want to hear about it.
What are YOU choosing to make easier this year?
Tell me — I truly want to know 🤍.
And if you need support in shifting from high achiever to high performer, this is exactly what I teach in The North Star Method.
This season is the perfect time to read it — or gift it to someone who needs this message 🎁.
