If you’ve been reading my emails this month, you already know I’ve been in a season of intentional slowing.
A full year of stepping back from the pace I lived at for a long time.
A month of prayer and fasting.
Mornings that stretch because I’m no longer rushing through them just to get on with the day.
And what’s become clearer to me — and maybe this will resonate with you too — is this:
It’s not that God isn’t speaking.
It’s that many of us are living at a volume that makes it hard to hear.
What “Noise” Really Looks Like
Noise is more than just sound.
I’m talking about the constant inner noise that’s created by:
- Always being busy
- Living in your head and your to-do list
- Nonstop Social scrolling
- 24-hour News cycles
- Work that never really shuts off
- TV and background stimulation
- Gossip and surface-level conversations
- Chronic complaining
- Chronic anger — at politicians, policies, or anyone who disagrees with you or hurt your feelings
- Pressure to constantly perform, prove, and produce
- Numbing with food, alcohol, marijuana, or other mind-altering escapes
Let me be clear: none of these things make you a bad person. They make you human.
Unfortunately, most of these behaviors and habits are normalized in our society. And some of it is even rewarded.
The problem with living like this is that it keeps your nervous system in a constant state of activation, which pulls you out of peace, drowns out discernment, and keeps you disconnected from your inner guidance system (God’s voice).
Is it any wonder that our world is filled with violence and division?
What Getting Quiet is Teaching Me
For most of my adult life, I functioned very well in the “noise.” It mirrored what I grew up with, where things were often loud, messy, and emotionally charged, so stillness didn’t come naturally.
What did come naturally was staying in motion and being the one who handled things — because staying busy made it easier to avoid sitting with discomfort or pain.
I earned degrees and certifications.
I built businesses.
I built a body that reflected discipline and control.
I traveled constantly.
I led teams and initiatives.
I made big decisions quickly.
I solved problems.
I carried responsibility with pride.
And in my 40s, I also learned how to work from vision — not just from running away from my past, not just from proving something to myself or anyone else.
Still, if I’m honest, even with that growth, much of my drive was tied to what my ego wanted and needed: validation, control, staying ahead, protecting myself and staying strong.
The most important and life-shaping decisions I’ve ever made didn’t come from striving or proving – they came from slowing down enough to hear God clearly.
After my mom died suddenly, making the bold decision to step into entrepreneurship with no background, no examples in my family, no roadmap — just a deep knowing that God was saying, You have what it takes. I will provide each step as you need it.
Choosing my husband.
Taking in our niece at age three and becoming her legal guardian.
Those life changing decisions weren’t ego-driven moves. They came directly from God – listening to his voice, and trusting his guidance over my own need to control the outcome or the process.
The Question High Achievers Have to Face
And here’s why I’m sharing that with you.
Because if you’re anything like me, and like the high-achievers I work with, you’ve learned how to function very well in motion. You know how to think, plan, execute, lead, and push through better than anyone.
You know how to make things happen.
But knowing how to do doesn’t automatically mean knowing how to discern.
When you’re used to being capable, productive, and responsible, it’s easy to confuse:
Urgency with calling.
Intuition with impulse.
Control with leadership.
Noise with momentum.
And over time, you can lose the ability to tell:
Is this God…
or is this fear?
Is this wisdom…
or is this my ego trying to stay in charge?
Is this important…
or am I just uncomfortable with waiting?
The answers to these questions is why quiet matters.
It helps you discern.
This is also why this season of slowing, fasting, and pulling back from constant stimulation has been so clarifying for me.
It’s not about becoming less driven. For me, it’s been about becoming more aligned with God’s timing and God’s priorities.
The Heart Behind The North Star Method
Much of what I’m sharing here is the very reason my book The North Star Method exists.
I wrote it to help you learn how to quiet the noise, strengthen your ability to listen, and discern God’s voice from ego, fear, and conditioning — so your decisions come from long-term vision and divine guidance, not short-term success or emotional reactivity.
It’s about becoming an intentional co-creator with God.
Doing the work He has ordained for you.
Not just what you’ve been striving to accomplish on your own.
If this season of your life is asking you to slow down, get clearer, and listen more deeply — not because you’re lost, but because you’re being refined — then The North Star Method will meet you right there.
Not to give you more to do – but to guide you into deeper listening.
The North Star Method is not just a productivity system. It’s a discernment framework.
The exercises in the book help you:
- Quiet the noise
- Separate God’s voice from ego and fear
- Learn to recognize true intuition (which is actually the Spirit’s guidance)
- Make decisions from long-term vision instead of short-term “success”
- Move from busy, burned-out high achiever mode into aligned, purpose-driven high performer living
Throughout the book, I share stories from my own life and my clients’ lives that show how clarity emerges when you slow down with intention, create focused space, and reconnect with the larger vision God is inviting you into.
